Come, come, whoever you are…

“Come, come, whoever you are.

Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving.

It doesn’t matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair.

Come, even if you have broken your vows a thousand times.

Come, yet again, come, come.”

- Rumi


Curious?  What does ‘lover of leaving’ mean to you?

 

My Story Group

  • How do the stories of your life impact who you are?
  • What can you learn from your stories of tragedy and loss?
  • What is the larger story that your life is telling?

Come join this 16-week small group, where we explore how to write and tell stories from our lives with honesty and curiosity in order to live with more freedom and joy. You write stories from your life and get feedback from the other group members. The group uses the books To Be Told by Dan Allender and To Be Told Workbook by Dan Allender and Lisa Fann to guide us as we create community by writing and sharing our stories with each other.

 

Please check under  SERVICES  for more information

The group runs every other Wednesday from 7:00 – 9:30pm

starts October 2nd

There is still room for you to join…

“You can survive on your own. And, You can even prevail on your own. But you cannot become human on your own.” Frederick Buechner

 

 

 

Heart of WAR or Heart of Peace?

Last summer I found myself reading out loud every morning to my girlfriend, at the poolside of our Radium resort, while our teenage children slept in.  The book that caught our attention and called us to this early morning ritual was, “The Anatomy of Peace,” by the Arbinger Institute.

I was reminded of the book yesterday, and its underlying message.  There I was in the office of a professional being belittled by this giant of a man with BIG booming voice. I felt life slowly seep out of my body as his presence filled the entire room.  I felt my spirit leaving me as he towered over me stating, ‘I told you…”   I called forth every ounce of courage I had not to feel small, but to be acknowledged as a person with a voice and with dignity.

Why do people abuse power and use manipulative tactics?  Why do we justify our behavior under the guise of needing to be right.

If you want a profound read that will change the way you view conflict in any relationship, I challenge to read

“The Anatomy of Peace.”

Choose peace!

 

 

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The House Hunt

These past few weeks have been consumed with house shopping…thus my absence from writing

In my pursuit of finding a new place for my three teenage children, and myself I have had to ponder the big question.  What makes a house a home?

Also, what do I need to make whatever place I am looking for, a home for me and the kids?  What am I looking for?  What do we need?  What do we want?

As a family of four it is difficult to find something out there that is in my price range and suitable to serve he needs of middle aged me; who loves bright open space, a modern kitchen, and a small yard (plus a soaker tub would definitely be an asset).  Then there is my daughter, who in her dating years will need a space where she feels comfortable to bring guys home and have privacy to hang with a few girlfriends, apart from the boys.  Speaking of boys, I can’t forget my two teenage sons; who need a cave! This is a space where numerous teenage guys can rumble and tumble, hang, crash for the night, without being interrupted or bothered.  This is also the place for the TV, and gaming station.

In these last years I have with my young adult children, I want to create a safe place, a refuge.  I want each of my children to have an opportunity to experience their own oasis, their bedrooms,  a place where they can privately recharge uninterrupted.  I want several different small meeting spaces where each of us can host and entertain groups of friends.  I imagine a large functional kitchen, with a big table to gather around over great food, good conversation and lots of laughs.  Last, I’d like a small yard to enjoy the outdoors, soak in the sun and feel close to nature, maybe even a little fire pit to informally gather around on cold nights.

Curious, what makes a house, a home?

In these last years I have with my young adult children, I want to create a safe place, a refuge.  I want each of my children to have an opportunity to experience their own oasis, their bedrooms,  a place where they can privately recharge uninterrupted.  I want several different small meeting spaces where each of us can host and entertain groups of friends.  I imagine a large functional kitchen, with a big table to gather around over great food, good conversation and lots of laughs.  Last, I’d like a small yard to enjoy the outdoors, soak in the sun and feel close to nature, maybe even a little fire pit to informally gather around on cold nights.

Curious, what makes your house, your home?

 

Glorious and Free

 

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O Canada! Our home and native land!

True patriot love in all thy sons command.

With glowing hearts we see thee rise,

The True North strong and free!

From far and wide, O Canada,

We stand on guard for thee.

God keep our land glorious and free!

O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.

O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.

 

 

The Simple Life

More recently I have been challenged to simplify my life.  I thought I was actually doing pretty well until along came the BIG TEST.  I realized I needed to move out of my home and begin to downsize.

After living in the same home for 15 years, what would I take with me?  What do I need?  What can I live without?  Soon the house was buzzing with the energy of purging! Large garbage bags were filled, drawers full of stuff, trashed.  It was almost as fun as preparing for a big party.  Funny how one day I loved my home and clung on to it like an old dear friend, and then the next I was decisively choosing what needed to go.  I’m taking only the BIG STUFF I absolutely love, the  comfy furniture that’s me.  What about my wardrobe?  It’s now purged down to a handful of hangers, a box of purses and shoes, plus 2 large suitcases.  One for spring/summer clothes the other for fall/winter.  Then there are books! I suppose it’s important to first return what I have borrowed.  Next, the give away pile…until all I have left are the few gems that I choose re-read and lend to sojourners.

However, living the simple life involves more than purging stuff.  I’ve also had to create space for quiet, for contemplation.  A No noise zone!  This means, no TV, no music, no phone chats, no emails, face book, etc.

I am beginning to appreciate a more simple life. Hopefully in time, this will allow me to free up time for what is truly important and what I value.

I’ve recently read the short list, which includes:
1.  Identify what’s most important to you
2.  Eliminate everything else…

 

Ten Rules for being Human

 

by Cherie Carter-Scott

 

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10. You will forget all this.

 

Letting go…

 

“Change is inevitable, growth is optional!”

 

Although I’m familiar with this saying, and have used and quoted it many times, only now am now beginning to grasp its deeper meaning.  Staying stuck is an option.  The same old rut can have a nice comfy feel and a sense of familiarity.  It beckons you, woos you and calls you back.   Somewhat like an old pair of runners that have served you well, yet have outlived their “walking” days.

Transition can feel shaky, uncomfortable and can feel like a long painful process.  It never happens overnight.  Transition takes courage and strength to let go.  It takes perseverance and persistence to trust yourself.  Surrender to the process.

 

What do you have to let go of?


Choose to release it now!

X Marks the Spot!

Although I live in Edmonton, I rarely shop at West Edmonton Mall. The reason?  I usually get lost and can’t find my way.  At times it’s even a challenge to find one of those Mall Maps and locate the  X, You are here.”

Have you ever felt that way in life, lost, not knowing where to go?

Consider this excerpt from the Children’s book, “Alice in Wonderland:”

One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. “Which road do I take,” she asked? “Where do you want to go,” was his response? “I don’t know,” Alice answered. “Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”

Where do you want to go?   What do you want ?

As a co-active coach we begin where you are, X marks the spot!

Where are you?

 

 

 

Come along with me, join the expedition…

This will be a unique quest of dabbling in the wonder of my mind.  What am I curious about?  What grabs my attention?  What holds my interest?  What causes me to sit in awe and ponder…deliberate…contemplate?  What moves my soul to belly laugh, or my heart to cry? What replenishes me, rejuvenates me, nourishes me?  Is there anything new under the sun?  I will begin to explore the old, the ordinary, the familiar, perhaps even the mundane.  For as Einstein said  ”There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”  I choose the latter, to examine such mysteries by penning my weekly thoughts on this page. I hope it will spark a reason for you to live in the present with passion and purpose!

 

Let the search begin!